So on my way to the library to print some paperwork I needed (no working printer right now), a car in the right lane swerved into my lane several times. As I passed them (because I want to be ahead of crazy drivers, not behind them or beside them!) the driver was taking a selfie! What the hell is wrong with you people that you can’t put down your damn phone and pay attention to LIFE right in front of you! Is a selfie worth crashing your car? Because you were close to it several times!
Yesterday as I was waiting to pick up my 15 year old from Track practice I saw not one, but three different kids who were taking selfies as they were walking to their cars. They were more focused on taking a picture of themselves then paying attention to the world, or in this case, traffic, around them. My son has like 20 Snapchat messages (probably more, I don’t really know) when he comes to the car from his Track practice…all in the span of just a couple of hours. We need to do more actual talking to people!
Don’t get me wrong, I love technology and I use it a lot. I take pictures with my phone, I check email, makes lists, look up recipes, call people, transfer money, buy items etc. But increasingly anymore you can’t have a normal conversation without the darn phone interrupting.
There are even apps upon apps where you can “converse” with whomever you want about whatever you want with “no strings”. These days we all want instant gratification instead. Pick up your phone and just find someone who agrees with you or will say what you want to hear instead of possibly encountering some conflict in your real life relationships. What does it hurt? Well, it hurts those who now have to compete for your attention that’s who it hurts.
The sad thing is this is not the first time I have had an encounter while driving that when I passed the person who was driving erratically I see them on their phone. Let’s face it people, none of you are texting anything life or death on your way to Wally-World or Starbucks. The only people who have life or death decisions to make via their phones have chauffeur’s and secret service people to drive them around and keep them safe. All of the “important” business most of us have to do on our phones can wait.
Again, I am certainly not anti-technology. I love it! I just see it over taking my life and I don’t like that at all. When people forget how to have a conversation face to face about things (big things, little things, funny things, deep things…all things!) then we are in trouble as a society.
My kids school is implementing a new cell phone policy after our spring break and cell phones will not be allowed out in the classrooms only in the halls and at lunch. The kids (and some of the adults) are not too happy about it. I had a conversation with a student last week who got sent out of class because he refused to put his phone away when the teacher asked. I explained to him that he needed to think of it from the teachers standpoint. If she has 20-30 kids in a class and half (usually more!) are on their phones (listening to music, taking selfies, chatting, cheating etc) who does she know they are paying attention and learning? He sort of understood that. The kicker was at the end of the conversation when I asked him if he thought I was listening to him throughout this conversation and he said yes. I said would you feel the same if I had my phone out the entire time and was texting on it? He just kind of laughed and said…”No”.